Worrying About What Other People Think

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
Lao Tzu

This is something that I struggle with on a daily basis. I think everyone, especially my generation, has had their minds warped by social media. We see beautiful, respected and accomplished people who are living their dream lives with dream jobs. We judge what we see online, which in turn has us judge those in our real life. Being exposed to this may inspire us, but it also seems to harm us.

As an aspiring actor, I try the best that I can to not let myself be affected by this. The acting world is filled with beautiful, talented people. I used to have intense anxiety about this – was I pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough? I can tell that even my parents question it – as they should, their my parents!

I ask myself, if I worry so much about looks, failure and how others see me, what is even the point of trying? But I know that there is a point – I have passion, that is what keeps me going. I don’t want other peoples opinions to stand in my way.

There is really only one solution to this madness: don’t care what other people think and follow your intuition. Listening to other peoples opinions has helped, but mainly hindered me. I feel sometimes that I have lost my own voice trying to be right for others.

You won’t have a happy life if you worry so much of about what others think of you. Yet, sometimes I feel like I have to worry about what others think of me – it can land me a job or not. But at the end of the day I know I can never take it personally. I will never know why someone won’t cast me, the hard part is trying to get the voices out of your head saying you are not tall enough, pretty enough, etc.

And lets remember this :

“We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.” – Ethel Barrett

Here is a great article on some tips that will help you stop worrying about others.

xx Olivia

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Hello everyone,

its been far too long! I had quite the hectic summer…

Some highlights :

  • A weekend workshop at the wonderful Omega Insitute.
  • A trip with my entire family (on my Moms side) to Bermuda!
  • My first family wedding.
  • Celebrating my 2 and a half year anniversary (cuz why not? :))

I would like to begin with my story about the Omega Institute. I was reading an amazing book called “The Tools” when I learned that the two authors would be doing a weekend workshop at a beautiful retreat in Upstate NY. I had to go! My mom and I made the three hour trip to the woods where we learned more about our spiritual side and ate extremely healthy food with some kind-hearteded people..

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The authors, also professional therapists to some major celebrities, were funny and seriously helpful. Though their ideas are complex at times, with practice and concentration you can seriously change your life for the better. Everyone should give this book a shot.

 

Now I am starting off at a new school on the Upper East side of Manhattan. So far it has been amazing! I love this area of the city, the vibes are great. Though I loved living downtown, I am really feeling better up here. The energy is great. I am finally in my major: Acting! I am feeling optimistic and love my Professors.

One major theme for me this month is pushing myself outside of my comfort zone. I am diving more into music and writing music, working with garageband. I just want to do everything! I start my days now at 7 am and soon hope to wake up earlier. I want to push myself and do the unusual for me. I am thinking of mood boards, visualization projects and organization. Most importantly though: hard work. I really did not work hard for what I wanted last year, this is definitely going to change with my new journey.

 

I have already gotten into the Autumn spirit. I baked a pumpkin pie and pulled out the comfy sweaters.

Currently I am listening to a cool, new young band called Echo Smith. They are incredibly talented and uplifting .

A couple weeks ago I took Mike for his birthday to go see Arcade Fire at Barclays Center in Brooklyn. It was such a beautiful experience it inspired me to want to perform at a few open mics. So we shall see how that goes!

 

I shall keep you posted on some new endeavors.

 

 

xx Olivia

 

 

Bring Some Gratitude to Your Life by Donating to This Amazing Cause!

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Hi everyone,

I am firm believer that when you give you get back.. 

Recently I really needed a job, but it seemed nearly impossible. My schedule is absolutely crazy while in college and basically my only free time is on the weekend. However, living in NYC is not viable without making an income. I felt bad needing to borrow money from my parents.

Instead of stressing about it, I decided to patiently wait and just check craigslist everyday. I had no luck..

My roommate Susan is very good at getting what she wants. When she needed a job, she got it the next day. So I thought maybe Susan would be able to find the job for me, and of course right when she goes to look for one we find the perfect job: a weekend-only hostess position and a very well-known restaurant and the pay was great. I have never worked in a restaurant before, and getting a job in the food service industry in NYC without experience is highly unlikely. But regardless, I showed up for an interview. From what I heard they were considering 3 other people. So I decided I would be grateful for the opportunity, and I gave some money away to a few homeless people I see regularly in the subway stop. Long story short, I got the job! With absolutely no experience! And I was certain I didn’t have it because it took awhile for them to get back to me. But now I am making consistent money and having a blast.. 

So with that, I decided I really wanted to give back and create a campaign called Water for Life.

By donating, you are funding clean water projects. Everyday 5,000 children die from water-related illnesses. Can you imagine that?

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It would be amazing if my awesome 200 followers could donate a few bucks for this cause! I promise you, it will bring some positive vibes to your life. 🙂

Hope you are all having a beautiful day.. 

NYC has been warmin up ! 

Check out Water for Life !

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xx Olivia

 

The Treehouse in Costa Rica!

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My Dad went through this strange phase a year ago where he wanted to be more adventurous.

My family loves to travel, I have been fortunate to travel since I can remember. However, our trips have never been exactly venturesome, due to the fact that they consisted of us getting around on a boat and having everything taken care for us (Royal Caribbean).

I love my parents, but they are getting to that point in time where they find everything to get on their nerves. They just want to lay on a beach and do absolutely nothing for the entire vacation. Which is understandable at their age.
Now why did my father – whom hates to do anything strenuous- decide to put a payment down on a treehouse in the middle of the rainforest? That is a question I still ask myself.

Well the time had come and the day after Christmas my sister, brother, mom and dad caught a five hour plane to San Jose, Costa Rica.

From San Jose we had to catch a tiny 10 person jet for an hour to a small town called Puerto Jimenez. The jet ride was scary but amazing, so many great views.

The treehouse was incredibly designed. It was four stories high- wrapped around a beautiful, large tree. It had three bedrooms, two bathrooms, and a kitchen. Everything was wide open, except fortunately the bed rooms were screened in. There was no TV, and the wifi wasn’t working.
Our days consisted of being woken up by 20 titi monkeys at 6 am every morning (they would bounce around the trees right next to us!) Then we would wait for breakfast which our lovely caretakers made for us every morning….

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Then we would take a half hour walk to a very clean water river where many locals use the mud for facials and search for gold…

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Then most of the day we would just lay around and read.
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They also had a large garden growing nearby with lots of fruits and veggies growing. I picked up a cucumber everyday!

My dad did not want to drive into town because the roads were so dangerous. However, I also got to go zip lining and that was riveting. It looked terrifying, but it was liberating being able to do it. We were very high up in the rainforest going 60 mph.

One of the most exciting trips is when we decided to take a boat to the animal reserve. On the boat ride we saw a thirty foot whale shark, hundreds of dolphins, and the second most poisonous snake in the world!

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We then arrived to the reserve, apparently they filmed some of Jurassic Park there.. I am not surprised!

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I got to see monkeys, parrots, sloths and lots of birds. The woman that worked there was sweet.. I can not believe she lived there by herself.

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The scariest part of this whole trip was not the fact that everything went black at 5:45 pm every night, or how there were 8 bats living with us in the treehouse, or even how one night I was cleaning the dishes and a huge rainforest animal- called a kinkajou– jumped into the kitchen, stole my fruit and ran off. The scariest part of this trip were the roads. Here in NJ we got pretty nicely paved roads. Puerto Jimenez, Costa Rica has the most terrifying roads I have ever been on. The road leading to the treehouse took us 20 minutes. It was completely made out of dirt and on the left side there was a huge trench you could not get out of, on the right side was a cliff. You fall off you die. We had to do this anytime we wanted to get to the treehouse, or get to the town. This made it very difficult to go anywhere. Even when we wanted to go to the beach it took an hour and a half on very bumpy roads and at times we were driving through rivers and going up cliffs!
It was worth it though…

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On this trip I was able to have bonding time with my family as well as eat healthy and read a lot. I really felt it was the perfect place to spend the New Years, right in the middle of nature. Every morning I woke up the beautiful jungle, and every night I would go to sleep terrified, but it was a great experience.

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Heres some extra pics if you guys are interested in what it looked like. I highly recommend taking the trip if you can. Heres some info on it if you would like!

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I hope you all are having a lovely week. And any Jersey/New York folk are staying safe in this crazy blizzard. It looks beautiful outside!

Soon I will be uploading me and Mikes 2 year anniversary trip to NYC!

xx Olivia

Loving Life

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How is everyones 2014 so far? I started off the New Year living in a tree house in the rainforest in Costa Rica..

Yes it was crazy. I have so many pictures I can not wait to share. It truly was a life-changing experience. I came back with complete positivity and a sense of peace. And that has been my resolution for 2014- to find a sense of peace within myself. 

Every year its the same resolutions…

  • work out everyday 
  • no soda
  • no cursing
  • read books etc…

I find that these resolutions honestly just stress me out. There is always this lingering pressure starting out the New Year. To the point where I am just like ugh I don’t even want to try anymore.

And yes they are important to incorporate into life.. but I find that the pressure is not beneficial to my life.

My important words for 2014 are

  • Gratitude
  • Peace
  • Love

Because without these three things how is a happy life achieved? 

For gratitude I decided to keep a gratitude journal. Every night, or the nights I can, I write down everything I am grateful for that happened that day. It has been going very well!

For peace I decided to turn off the news. No more CNN, USA Today, etc. Although current events can be important, I was constantly checking the news all day everyday purely out of boredom. And I just kept getting hit with more and more bad news. It really started to drag me down in 2013, and give me a pessimistic outlook. So far I have been detoxing from news I actually have a much brighter outlook on life I have to say. I plan on volunteering my time to give back to the community as well.

For love I decided to start giving more loving attention to my family and friends. I felt this past year I really just blew people off for my own personal time. Now everyday I try to talk to friends I barely contact and I have conversations with every family member. I am trying to be a lot more loving and less judgmental. 

 

Resolutions can be hard to keep so my motto is just to take it day-by-day. I know there will be plenty of times this year where I find it difficult to stick to these three words, but there is always tomorrow. Don’t let yourself get stressed because it will all work out, especially if there is gratitude involved! And most importantly treat yourself well.  

I hope everyone is having a wonderful, safe January. 

xx Olivia 

 

Living For the Weekend and A Short Film!

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How is everyone? I have been so busy at school, but learning a lot.
Lately I’ve realized how grateful I am for the weekend. Resting after such a hectic week is very much needed.
Some of my favorite things to do on the weekend include…

-discovering new tea
-window shopping
-napping all day
-discovering new music
-reading a great book
-writing in my journal
-watching my favorite TV shows
-eating my favorite food
-discovering new parts of NYC

above you will see I posted a short film called Jack that I stumbled upon on tumblr. What I love so much about this video is how happy this man is, and how simply he has lived. It reminds me that you can live without much and still have a great life. I hope you all enjoy it too.
And as we speak, NYC has just gotten its first snow fall of December!

My First Fall in NYC

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I am a big big fan of Autumn. And this is the first time I am living in NYC starting as a college student. So far I am enjoying it ! It is such a change from living in the suburbs of NJ.

NYC in the fall can be absolutely beautiful. And I am so grateful to be able to wake up every morning and experience it.

Some of my favorite Autumn quotes ….

“I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.”
― L.M. MontgomeryAnne of Green Gables

“Delicious autumn! My very soul is wedded to it, and if I were a bird I would fly about the earth seeking the successive autumns.”
― George Eliot

“No spring nor summer beauty hath such grace as I have seen in one autumnal face.”
― John Donne

“Autumn…the year’s last, loveliest smile.”
― William Cullen Bryant

Time Out Magazine has a list of things to do in the Fall in NYC which is so much fun! Theres 101 choices but some of my favorite are…

  • Watch the leaves fall at Green-wood cemetery and New York Botanical Garden.
  • March in the Village Halloween Parade
  • Pay respects at the 9/11 memorial
  • Go see an indie rock band at Webster Hall
  • Visit the New York Philharmonic
  • Hit up Spa Week!
  • Go up to Queens County farm and find some pumpkins 🙂
  • Get lost in central park
  • Shop at Brooklyn Flea Market

I hope everyone is getting ready for Fall and had a wonderful summer!

xx Olivia Mullen

Some truly thought provoking questions…

largeIf any of  you are interested in some new-agey awesome blog posts, quotes, stories and pictures, I highly recommend a website I visit from time to time called high existence. Its all about questioning life and certain beliefs, what truly is right from wrong. One post they had was about some questions one might not usually ask themselves. I found it very interesting and wanted to share some of it with all of you! Try asking yourself some!

  • If you had the opportunity to get a large message across to a large group of people, what would your message be?
  • Have you done anything lately worth remembering?
  • Which activities make you lose track of time?
  • What is the difference between living and existing?
  • When you are 90 years old, what will matter to you most?
  • What do you believe stands about between you and complete happiness?

Let me know what you think! And I hope you are all having a beautiful Saturday morning!

P.s. heres the original link :p