Worrying About What Other People Think

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
Lao Tzu

This is something that I struggle with on a daily basis. I think everyone, especially my generation, has had their minds warped by social media. We see beautiful, respected and accomplished people who are living their dream lives with dream jobs. We judge what we see online, which in turn has us judge those in our real life. Being exposed to this may inspire us, but it also seems to harm us.

As an aspiring actor, I try the best that I can to not let myself be affected by this. The acting world is filled with beautiful, talented people. I used to have intense anxiety about this – was I pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough? I can tell that even my parents question it – as they should, their my parents!

I ask myself, if I worry so much about looks, failure and how others see me, what is even the point of trying? But I know that there is a point – I have passion, that is what keeps me going. I don’t want other peoples opinions to stand in my way.

There is really only one solution to this madness: don’t care what other people think and follow your intuition. Listening to other peoples opinions has helped, but mainly hindered me. I feel sometimes that I have lost my own voice trying to be right for others.

You won’t have a happy life if you worry so much of about what others think of you. Yet, sometimes I feel like I have to worry about what others think of me – it can land me a job or not. But at the end of the day I know I can never take it personally. I will never know why someone won’t cast me, the hard part is trying to get the voices out of your head saying you are not tall enough, pretty enough, etc.

And lets remember this :

“We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.” – Ethel Barrett

Here is a great article on some tips that will help you stop worrying about others.

xx Olivia

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Loving Life

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How is everyones 2014 so far? I started off the New Year living in a tree house in the rainforest in Costa Rica..

Yes it was crazy. I have so many pictures I can not wait to share. It truly was a life-changing experience. I came back with complete positivity and a sense of peace. And that has been my resolution for 2014- to find a sense of peace within myself. 

Every year its the same resolutions…

  • work out everyday 
  • no soda
  • no cursing
  • read books etc…

I find that these resolutions honestly just stress me out. There is always this lingering pressure starting out the New Year. To the point where I am just like ugh I don’t even want to try anymore.

And yes they are important to incorporate into life.. but I find that the pressure is not beneficial to my life.

My important words for 2014 are

  • Gratitude
  • Peace
  • Love

Because without these three things how is a happy life achieved? 

For gratitude I decided to keep a gratitude journal. Every night, or the nights I can, I write down everything I am grateful for that happened that day. It has been going very well!

For peace I decided to turn off the news. No more CNN, USA Today, etc. Although current events can be important, I was constantly checking the news all day everyday purely out of boredom. And I just kept getting hit with more and more bad news. It really started to drag me down in 2013, and give me a pessimistic outlook. So far I have been detoxing from news I actually have a much brighter outlook on life I have to say. I plan on volunteering my time to give back to the community as well.

For love I decided to start giving more loving attention to my family and friends. I felt this past year I really just blew people off for my own personal time. Now everyday I try to talk to friends I barely contact and I have conversations with every family member. I am trying to be a lot more loving and less judgmental. 

 

Resolutions can be hard to keep so my motto is just to take it day-by-day. I know there will be plenty of times this year where I find it difficult to stick to these three words, but there is always tomorrow. Don’t let yourself get stressed because it will all work out, especially if there is gratitude involved! And most importantly treat yourself well.  

I hope everyone is having a wonderful, safe January. 

xx Olivia 

 

Be Free

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Hello everyone! I haven’t been on in awhile.. but I have good news…I bought myself a new macbook! So I will be posting much more. School has been going well but I thought I’d talk about stress. My life has been very very stressful lately. Due to urgent parents.

I understand college applications are important.

What I don’t understand is why they have to be so stressful.. I really feel that stress in life is completely unnecessary. Of course its important to get things done. But life is too short to waste it on stress.

So its pretty funny but I’ve been trying to coach my mom on how to handle her stress. She doesn’t seem to like me coaching her.. she thinks it should be the other way around. But I believe everyone should be free of stress.

“Where’d the days go, when all we did was play? And the stress that we were under wasn’t stress at all just a run and a jump into a harmless fall” 
― Paolo Nutini