Worrying About What Other People Think

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
Lao Tzu

This is something that I struggle with on a daily basis. I think everyone, especially my generation, has had their minds warped by social media. We see beautiful, respected and accomplished people who are living their dream lives with dream jobs. We judge what we see online, which in turn has us judge those in our real life. Being exposed to this may inspire us, but it also seems to harm us.

As an aspiring actor, I try the best that I can to not let myself be affected by this. The acting world is filled with beautiful, talented people. I used to have intense anxiety about this – was I pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough? I can tell that even my parents question it – as they should, their my parents!

I ask myself, if I worry so much about looks, failure and how others see me, what is even the point of trying? But I know that there is a point – I have passion, that is what keeps me going. I don’t want other peoples opinions to stand in my way.

There is really only one solution to this madness: don’t care what other people think and follow your intuition. Listening to other peoples opinions has helped, but mainly hindered me. I feel sometimes that I have lost my own voice trying to be right for others.

You won’t have a happy life if you worry so much of about what others think of you. Yet, sometimes I feel like I have to worry about what others think of me – it can land me a job or not. But at the end of the day I know I can never take it personally. I will never know why someone won’t cast me, the hard part is trying to get the voices out of your head saying you are not tall enough, pretty enough, etc.

And lets remember this :

“We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.” – Ethel Barrett

Here is a great article on some tips that will help you stop worrying about others.

xx Olivia

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Sun Safety This Summer

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Sun safety is a huge priority in my family. I had a great Uncle pass away from skin cancer, my mother had Melanoma, and I have already had three suspicious looking “freckles” removed. Not too mention, I am as pale as they come- it is quite easy for me to get burned.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t matter what skin tone you have, everyone is at risk. To help prevent skin cancer, wearing an SPF 30 or higher daily is essential, no matter the weather.

Since I live at the Jersey Shore, my friends and I are very careful about being out too long in the sun, or making sure to really cover up when we head to the beach. We know now that not only does the sun cause skin cancer, but chronic UV exposure will give you winkles, hyper-pigmentation, and age spots.

Here are a few of my favorite sun blocks for face….

and for body…

On top of that sunblock, you can protect yourself with clothing and accessories!

Hats:

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ASOS

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Cover Ups:

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Adding sunblock and other skin protectors is essential, and so is staying up to date on skin protection news. One company I discovered which is great with this is called Oscar, which is a health insurance company based in New York. Oscar uses technology to help members stay informed and on top of subjects such as skin protection. They recently wrote a great blog post about ‘protecting your biggest organ” – your skin. They offer some quick tips on SPF use and even how to get a vitamin D fix.

Another thing I love about this company is that they keep things simple and smart; they have a team of nurses and healthcare experts on call to answer any questions, even something as simple as what foods can help with getting your vitamin D. It’s even free to talk with a doctor over the phone anytime. It’s like having a doctor in the family, doesn’t that sound nice? 

I hope you are all enjoying your summer so far and being diligent about sun safety. My goal is to keep sun protection in mind and be super safe, while also enjoying the warmth we’ve all been waiting for. I also plan on making sure to have healthcare experts in my life, such as the teams at Oscar Health Insurance. After all, you can never be too careful with your most beautiful asset!

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Hello everyone,

its been far too long! I had quite the hectic summer…

Some highlights :

  • A weekend workshop at the wonderful Omega Insitute.
  • A trip with my entire family (on my Moms side) to Bermuda!
  • My first family wedding.
  • Celebrating my 2 and a half year anniversary (cuz why not? :))

I would like to begin with my story about the Omega Institute. I was reading an amazing book called “The Tools” when I learned that the two authors would be doing a weekend workshop at a beautiful retreat in Upstate NY. I had to go! My mom and I made the three hour trip to the woods where we learned more about our spiritual side and ate extremely healthy food with some kind-hearteded people..

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The authors, also professional therapists to some major celebrities, were funny and seriously helpful. Though their ideas are complex at times, with practice and concentration you can seriously change your life for the better. Everyone should give this book a shot.

 

Now I am starting off at a new school on the Upper East side of Manhattan. So far it has been amazing! I love this area of the city, the vibes are great. Though I loved living downtown, I am really feeling better up here. The energy is great. I am finally in my major: Acting! I am feeling optimistic and love my Professors.

One major theme for me this month is pushing myself outside of my comfort zone. I am diving more into music and writing music, working with garageband. I just want to do everything! I start my days now at 7 am and soon hope to wake up earlier. I want to push myself and do the unusual for me. I am thinking of mood boards, visualization projects and organization. Most importantly though: hard work. I really did not work hard for what I wanted last year, this is definitely going to change with my new journey.

 

I have already gotten into the Autumn spirit. I baked a pumpkin pie and pulled out the comfy sweaters.

Currently I am listening to a cool, new young band called Echo Smith. They are incredibly talented and uplifting .

A couple weeks ago I took Mike for his birthday to go see Arcade Fire at Barclays Center in Brooklyn. It was such a beautiful experience it inspired me to want to perform at a few open mics. So we shall see how that goes!

 

I shall keep you posted on some new endeavors.

 

 

xx Olivia

 

 

How To Get Happy and Succeed in Spring

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Well….. almost Spring..

Its still freezing in NYC, and apparently its snowing tonight! WTH? Its almost April. But it must mean that with such a rough winter.. will come a beautiful Spring. I am so excited for Spring!! Its the season of renewal: flowers bloom, the sun comes out. Winter was a time to conserve energy and with Spring we must detox and fill ourselves with happiness once again !

And I don’t know about you, but this was a pretty rough winter.. So I have come up with some ideas to get you back in track and feeling amazing!

1.) Get a Haircut.

It may sound simple but getting a haircut makes such a huge difference in how you feel and look. I always feel like I can take on the world with a new haircut !

2.) Make Goals and Act on Them.  

Its hard to get things done when its cold out. And with little sun you become vitamin D deficient. With Spring coming around there are so many brilliant ideas out there to help act on goals.

Here are some of my favorites:

Mindbloom – a creative way to track and make life improvements.

Learnvest – a powerful website that will set you up with a financial plan- for free!

Clear – (app) I love this app! It is so simple, easy  and fun to use.

Lift – (app) This app has helped me out immensely. You can input accomplished daily goals and interact with the apps community.

3.) Express Gratitude. 

I can’t say it enough: gratitude is everything. Did you see Matthew McConaugheys best actor Oscar speech?

Heres some things to remember about gratitude :

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 I am a firm believer that happiness comes from energy. When your tired or feeling sick, do you feel happy? Probably not! Here are some tips on keeping your energy up ..

  • take an epsom salt bath- this helps detoxify the body
  • get acupuncture – yes, it can be expensive, but it will help you immensely.. even once every two months.
  • eat healthy and especially green food. – cut back processed foods, wheat, dairy and sugar.
  • exercise regularly- even if its a small walk, especially around nature!
  • take vitamins- find out which would benefit you.
  • meditate- at least once a day.
  • sleep– nuff said.

5.) Don’t Be Hard on Yourself 

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Success can only be defined by ourselves. This Spring I encourage you to be kind to yourself. Save up and go to a spa, take regular walks in the woods, maybe even take a road trip. When we do the things we love, we have more love for ourselves- creating success.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I hope everyone is having a lovely week!!

 

xx Olivia

Bring Some Gratitude to Your Life by Donating to This Amazing Cause!

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Hi everyone,

I am firm believer that when you give you get back.. 

Recently I really needed a job, but it seemed nearly impossible. My schedule is absolutely crazy while in college and basically my only free time is on the weekend. However, living in NYC is not viable without making an income. I felt bad needing to borrow money from my parents.

Instead of stressing about it, I decided to patiently wait and just check craigslist everyday. I had no luck..

My roommate Susan is very good at getting what she wants. When she needed a job, she got it the next day. So I thought maybe Susan would be able to find the job for me, and of course right when she goes to look for one we find the perfect job: a weekend-only hostess position and a very well-known restaurant and the pay was great. I have never worked in a restaurant before, and getting a job in the food service industry in NYC without experience is highly unlikely. But regardless, I showed up for an interview. From what I heard they were considering 3 other people. So I decided I would be grateful for the opportunity, and I gave some money away to a few homeless people I see regularly in the subway stop. Long story short, I got the job! With absolutely no experience! And I was certain I didn’t have it because it took awhile for them to get back to me. But now I am making consistent money and having a blast.. 

So with that, I decided I really wanted to give back and create a campaign called Water for Life.

By donating, you are funding clean water projects. Everyday 5,000 children die from water-related illnesses. Can you imagine that?

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It would be amazing if my awesome 200 followers could donate a few bucks for this cause! I promise you, it will bring some positive vibes to your life. 🙂

Hope you are all having a beautiful day.. 

NYC has been warmin up ! 

Check out Water for Life !

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xx Olivia

 

Some truly thought provoking questions…

largeIf any of  you are interested in some new-agey awesome blog posts, quotes, stories and pictures, I highly recommend a website I visit from time to time called high existence. Its all about questioning life and certain beliefs, what truly is right from wrong. One post they had was about some questions one might not usually ask themselves. I found it very interesting and wanted to share some of it with all of you! Try asking yourself some!

  • If you had the opportunity to get a large message across to a large group of people, what would your message be?
  • Have you done anything lately worth remembering?
  • Which activities make you lose track of time?
  • What is the difference between living and existing?
  • When you are 90 years old, what will matter to you most?
  • What do you believe stands about between you and complete happiness?

Let me know what you think! And I hope you are all having a beautiful Saturday morning!

P.s. heres the original link :p

My crazy life, Valentines Day! and new tumblr!

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How is everyone?

My life has been extremely hectic, between college auditions and school in general. But I can’t complain. I haven’t been posting often because we found out my brother had a brain tumor in December. He is absolutely fine now! They got the tumor out and he turned out to be cancer free. It was a serious miracle if I have ever seen one. The tumor was 80% cancerous (the doctors told us). The results came back and it came out to be cancer free! It was a huge blessing and I am so thankful for it. Its amazing what life can throw at you. My whole life turned upside down but now its like nothing happened. He’s back to normal and life is back to normal. Although I am stressing about college, I still find a way to keep the peaceful thinking. At least I try. I think through the experiences of my life the last couple months, my goal in life is really just to be happy and live stress free. And the best part about it is that happiness is a choice. Just a hard one for humans to make at times.

Anyways, its almost Valentines Day guys! A day of love love love. Lucky me this is my second year of having someone on Valentines Day. Since I am 18 year old high school girl all I hear is the same “forever alone, going to sit at home and eat ice cream and scream at the tv, la la la” from all of my friends. Strangely I was never like that when I was single, I’ve always been excited about Valentines Day. Its always made me cheerful :). Probably because I find love extremely fascinating. Its amazing that we can feel so powerful for another human being. And not just a partner but our family too. I felt so much love for my brother when I thought he was in serious danger, even though we havent been very close over the past year. And thats why I’ve been yelling at all my whiny, single friends: Valentines day is not just about love for your boyfriend, but love for your family as well. And friends and life ! Just spread love to everyone that day! Life is so precious and we need be positive as much as we can.

However…. I know i know, Valentines Day is mainly special with your boyfriend/girlfriend. I have never understood the need to spend humongous amounts of cash on Valentines Day. It is almost as if the more you spend = the more you love. NO. Soo silly. Thats why I say cook at home ! Do simple, special things that are about each other. All I know is that this Valentines Day I will remember how happy and lucky I am to have such an amazing person come into my life. I love him for his faults and triumphs. I could go on and on about how he has completely changed my life. But I won’t bore all of you with that.

BY the way…. I have revamped my tumblr!!! : sundaysbreeze.tumblr.com

It is now filled with positivity and things that inspire me 🙂

Hope everyones week is filled with love and excitement!

Olivia ❤

The Shift

I hope everyone  had a wonderful Monday.

I had a very calm one. However, today I started letting the anxiety of college come over me. That feeling where you believe that life is  slowly closing in on you… ever have that? I have been having it daily due to the fact that college auditions are coming up. And I have some very important decisions to make. It is very frightening. But I still remember that life is bigger than that. You can not worry your life away..

One thing I know that always gets me back on track with positivity is the wisdom of Dr. Wayne Dyer.I happened to stumble upon his teachings from a friend who was giving me advice on meditation and new age thinking. Dyer is a self-help author and motivational speaker. I really learned a lot from his segment and was particularly drawn to his speech of “I Am”. Being able to tell yourself, “I am capable of accomplishing things”. You have to believe in yourself. His suggestion is to “run through as large an inventory as you can of the things that you would like to define your life. Then make the shift in your imagination from an I am not or I am hoping to become to I am. You want what follows I am to be congruent with your highest self, which is God.”

I love reading his blog because it helps remind me everyday not to take life too seriously. We have the ability to choose who we are.

And I close the night with some of his quotes:

  • “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”
  • “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
  • “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
  • “You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.”

p.s. check out his film!

Pumpkins!

 

 

Have you all been pumpkin picking on this beautiful fall? To those who don’t have an autumn where you are you can still celebrate!

My neighbor brings over the most delicious pumpkin bread. I decided that I must make my own this year!

Here is the recipe:

1 cup brown sugar
2 eggs
1/2 cup vegetable oil
1/3 cup water
1 (15 ounce) pumpkin puree
1 3/4 cups plain flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon nutmeg
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice

TOPPING
1 tablespoon butter
1/4 cup brown sugar
3 tablespoons milk

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In a medium size bowl beat eggs and mix with sugar, oil, water and pumpkin.
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In another bowl mix flour, baking soda, baking powder, salt, nutmeg, cinnamon and pumpkin pie spice. Combine wet ingredients with dry ingredients only until just blended. Do NOT overmix.
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Pour into a greased and floured loaf pan. This bread fits perfectly in an 8.5 x 4.5 loaf pan. Bake in a 325 degree oven for 50 to 60 minutes.
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For topping: In a small saucepan mix butter, brown sugar and milk. Boil only 2 1/2 minutes while stirring constantly. Immediately drizzle on top of loaf. Sprinkle with chopped pecans and press pecans lightly into topping.
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Wrap and store until next day for serving. This will keep moisture inside.

Its absolutely delicious! Here some more pumpkinny things:

some incredible pumpkin decorating ideas!

cant forget classic pumpkin pie

decorating with mini pumpkins!

I hope every is having a wonderful month. Sorry I havent been on in soo long!

Night Time

Hello everyone,

Sorry I haven’t been on in awhile. Super busy. But its night time here in Jersey, my favorite time of day. You get to release all events from the day and restfully sleep away your problems. Sometimes its the opposite effect though.

Lately my mind has been racing and its hard to sleep! I will role around for hours and be wide awake thinking about problems. So I had to come up with a sleep time regimen. Do you guys have one? Here’s mine:

  • get everything done
  • make sure room is clean
  • shower
  • get ready for bed
  • meditate
  • drink some sleepy time tea 🙂

this has really helped me with sleeping issues. Meditation brings so much peace to the mind. I highly recommend.