Worrying About What Other People Think

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
Lao Tzu

This is something that I struggle with on a daily basis. I think everyone, especially my generation, has had their minds warped by social media. We see beautiful, respected and accomplished people who are living their dream lives with dream jobs. We judge what we see online, which in turn has us judge those in our real life. Being exposed to this may inspire us, but it also seems to harm us.

As an aspiring actor, I try the best that I can to not let myself be affected by this. The acting world is filled with beautiful, talented people. I used to have intense anxiety about this – was I pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough? I can tell that even my parents question it – as they should, their my parents!

I ask myself, if I worry so much about looks, failure and how others see me, what is even the point of trying? But I know that there is a point – I have passion, that is what keeps me going. I don’t want other peoples opinions to stand in my way.

There is really only one solution to this madness: don’t care what other people think and follow your intuition. Listening to other peoples opinions has helped, but mainly hindered me. I feel sometimes that I have lost my own voice trying to be right for others.

You won’t have a happy life if you worry so much of about what others think of you. Yet, sometimes I feel like I have to worry about what others think of me – it can land me a job or not. But at the end of the day I know I can never take it personally. I will never know why someone won’t cast me, the hard part is trying to get the voices out of your head saying you are not tall enough, pretty enough, etc.

And lets remember this :

“We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.” – Ethel Barrett

Here is a great article on some tips that will help you stop worrying about others.

xx Olivia

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8 thoughts on “Worrying About What Other People Think

  1. I wonder if some of the caring what others think has to do with age. I’m ‘old’ now, as my kids tell me 🙂 and I have gotten to where others’ opinions don’t get to me as much. I cared very much when I was younger, to the point it did affect who I was or who I portrayed myself to be. I grew up before social media, so I imagine it is much worse now, but we do have to find a way to not be bound by what others think, but guide our actions from within. (I read this woman’s blog and she likes to say, “what others think of me is none of my business” – I really like that!) Good luck on your journey

  2. Inspiring thoughts on the ill effects of worrying unnecessarily on what others think about us. I did some introspection and feel it’s my deeply rooted ego which triggers such avoidable thoughts. I am working on it.
    Thanks Olivia and have a good week.
    Cheers and some flowers for you. 💐

  3. Cool post. As an aspiring screenwriter, I’ve learn to trudge on no matter what others say about my writing. When it comes to your dreams, passion will always trump the negatives you encounter.

  4. I have recently been released from stress unit I attended suicid I have a LOT of guilt my self esteem has down spiraled in life I have been recanized as the crazy energetic fun one. My depression has cosumed me i always care for others before me I’m always the last person to work on u have hero syndrome. I put on many mask I’m 35 and am just learning who am I? What do I like? What makes me happy it’s like twilight zone any suggestions?

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